Pandora’s Box with Kaleah

Great News!  My book Healing Narcissistic Abuse and Finding the True Self is now available in print for those of you in the U.S.  If you are not in the U.S. you can still get this book in E-book form.  

Codependency is the Buzz Word in the recovery movement to define those who spend their energy focusing on people who are addicted or affected in some way.  As we enter a recovery process from Codependency we learn how to bring our focus back to the only thing we have any control over...our SELF.  

Leave someone alone long enough and one of two things will happen.  S/he will drive himself/herself crazy or have a spiritual awakening.  

If you are going through the painful process of recovery from Narcissistic Abuse you likely are aware of symptoms of complex Post Traumatic Stress and Addiction.  There is a draw to the very person whom you are desperately trying to get away from.  There is something called "The Stockholm Syndrome" where you are attracted to the dangerous individual, looking for some kind of safety there.  When you can face up to the addiction and approach your recovery from Narcissistic Abuse as a recovery from addiction, you will begin to turn your focus inward to your own healing and recovery, and have less focus "out there" on the Narcissistic individual.

In this episode of Pandora's Box, Kaleah delves deeply into the topic of addiction, codependency, shame, inner child healing and ultimately SELF love.  

Our quest for perfection, or being seen as perfect clouds our ability to see ourselves as we really are and embrace a true, authentic life.  In this episode of Pandora's Box, Kaleah explores how we hide our authentic Self behind the idealized Self, the perfected Self and the devalued Self.
 
Kaleah talks about how core shame is at the root of our Self Rejection and Abandonment and how healing our core shame can put us on a path of true Self acceptance, Self Love and Self Realization.  

If you find that you continue to get involved in relationships where there is constant drama and chaos, there may be an inner aspect of you that is addicted to the drama.  Why do you continue to return to unhealthy and toxic relationships and environments?  Why do you find it so difficult to break away?

In this episode of Pandora’s Box, Kaleah talks about why we are drawn to chaos and drama and what you can do to change the patterns that keep you going back time and time again.  

Love bombing is a technique used to seduce either a love interest, a useful individual or a prospective cult member.  It is a term that originated with the Moonies Group in their conversion process but also used by narcissistic people to seduce a new source of supply.  

What is it that is really preventing you from letting go of what is not working and have the life that you want?  Are you suffering from an addiction to food, alcohol, drugs, sex, television, the Internet or even another individual? 

During the dark times in our lives it becomes more important to listen to the voice of intuition to help us navigate the rough waters of emotional challenges.  

We often have such an activated nervous system in relationships where we don’t feel safe.  We interpret that activated nervous system from abusive or neglectful relationships as excitement.  Your draw to that person is a draw to excitement because excitement makes you feel alive.   In this episdoe of Pandora's Box, Kaleah talks about the dynamics behind our draw to the narcissist, sociopath or abuser in our lives, trauma bonds, the Stockholm Syndrome, and how we can truly heal and move forward into a healthy relationship with ourselves.